What's your normal?
Christmas was nice. My parents came to stay with us, which was a truly great consolation considering how bummed I was about not being able to go to their house with my family. It was the first...
View ArticleDon’t take my moment
Most adoptive parents are used to -- or at least familiar with -- the comments, the stares, the whispers...the things that remind you that your family is different...
View ArticleStabs to my mommy heart
My kids and my husband left Denver early this morning and returned home to San Diego. At my husband’s urging, I stayed with my brother-in-law, sister-in-law and nephew for another week. Ed isn’t...
View ArticleTalking to kids about death
Crickets. Those are crickets I hear, right? Blog? What blog? If I didn’t have my password saved, I’m not sure I’d have been able to log in. Life has been busy. I stayed an extra week in Colorado. Four...
View ArticleHow Tangled is undoing all of our adoption talk progress
(The title is sarcastic. Sort of. But don’t get me wrong, we love the movie.) Well over a year ago – probably closer to a year-and-a-half – we began talking to Mattix, my just-turned-four-year-old,...
View ArticleThe questions kids ask
Sometimes kids' questions are funny. And sometimes they are very, very difficult.
View ArticleEnding the unintentional break
For a good year after I finished law school, I’d have the same nightmare at least once a week. I would walk into one of my classes, not really sure how I got there or why I was there, and a professor...
View ArticleThrowing sand into the sky: Adoption talk and loss
. “You’re the best mommy in the whole world,” Molley said several times a week. “I don’t want any other mommies. Just you.” I can recite that line in my sleep. Molley has been lovingly delivering it...
View ArticleClinging to security – and love
When the nanny at the orphanage placed Molley in my arms for the first time, Moll wasn’t so sure about me. I wouldn’t have expected her to be sure of anything. She didn’t know me. I was white woman...
View ArticleThe road to adoption attachment: Don’t leave me, then and now
I never would have expected Molley undergoing dental work to serve as a strong reminder of our hard-traveled road to attachment.
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